Is Life To Be Survived Or Enjoyed?

Well, what is your answer to the question in the title of this post?

Whatever your answer was gives you a hint into your perception about life.
Let me ask you another question: If you are watching TV, are you finding TV news uplifting or depressing? Are the news reflection of the reality you are living or not?
Do you believe there is more suffering in the world than there is beauty and joy?
Well, if you are on the side of ‘suffering’ and negative perception of life, you might find my following words challenging to believe. However, if you give yourself a permission to stretch your current beliefs and opinions, you will be able to see what I am saying.

Here is an example you might find interesting to ponder about.

Two brothers were involved in the same car accident. Neither of them got hurt. Afterwards, they were exchanging their experiences of the accident with the police officer. One brother was describing the situation his way and the other brother had another description of the accident. They were both perplexed at the different view of each other.

Does this situation remind you of one from your own life? Maybe you had an argument about something that was very obviously wrong to you, yet another person could not meet you at the viewpoint you were expressing?

Arguments like that can start from little misunderstanding of our different points of view and so called reality that we perceive as being the truth.

What you might find interesting to know, is that each person on the Earth has a different reality. “That’s nonsense!” I hear some of you say. Yet, science and the field of Neuro Linguistic Programming (which looks into changing your life through changing your internal representations of the world) in particular, proved that each of us sees the world very differently. That is the base of so many misunderstandings.

If you are perhaps a little confused what I mean by this, keep reading and let me explain.

We perceive the world around us mainly through our five senses (sight, sound, touch, smell and taste). You will surely know, that animals see and hear different things and frequencies than people. That is one example of us viewing the reality around us limited. The true reflection of reality is much more than our 5 senses can help us to comprehend. The world around us is only a reflection of our internal mental map.

This will sit with you if you’ve ever felt like there is more to reality of life than you can see, hear, touch, smell or taste. Maybe you felt like your life doesn’t reflect your life purpose? Maybe you are at times disillusioned with the world view or society around you?

Guess what! It’s your reality and you can change it. Yes, you are fully able to create the desired life that you want to be living in. Not by fighting against dragons, but by re-creating your internal map. There is a great and true statement: ‘Change your mind and the world around you will change too’.

Once upon a time I heard a joke about the Dalai Lama:

Dalai Lama went to New York and saw a hot dog stall on the street. So he decided to be naughty and get a hot dog. He goes to the stall and orders a hot dog, giving the guy in the stall his money. The guy sees that it’s Dalai Lama and decides to play with him. Dalai Lama sees that the guy is not giving him his change, so he asks: “Where is my change?” And the guy in the shop responds: “The change comes from within.”

Whether you see the world as scary and full of suffering and injustice, or you see it as a magical, full of unlimited potential and opportunities, it’s UP TO YOU!!!!

Yes, you. The truth is, that your current view has been conditioned since you were a little child. By your carers, family, society, church if so, and other factors. When you were growing up, your mind has formed a view of the world around you based on your beliefs about it. If your parents didn’t have enough money to spend on what you wanted, and told you that you simply can’t have all you want, because there is not enough of it, you might still believe that even as a grown up.

Another person, who may have grown up in similar financial situation, yet whose carers or parents helped him to have different values and encouraged him to go after his desires, empowering him to believe that it’s possible to have it all, has a very different ‘map of reality’. If you look at what is called ‘successful’ people, be it some well known millionaires or billionaires, or people who made a big difference in this world, you learn that they have a different beliefs and values.

It’s not how we were living as children that must define our future life. Many people still live in the past of hurts and limitations. Yet we are born fully ready to experience life to the fullest potential. The joy that you can see in very little children, before they experience restrictions passed onto them by the society and parents! Yes, that joy. It is our birthright to feel that way even as adults.

If there is something holding us back from being joyous, than it is the misuse of our own mind. The beliefs that were passed onto us, and which helped to form our personality and reality are ONLY JUST BELIEFS. And it’s up to us, if we keep them or change them to suit us.

I will give you an example. Some people believe that the Earth is flat. Some people believe that there is someone called ‘THEY’, who is here to control our world and lives. Some people believe that the earth will cease to exist if we don’t do something about our ‘devastated’ environment. Some people believe, that Vegan lifestyle is the only way for our future. What is your belief? Check which one of these challenges you (you either laugh at it or you shake your head in disbelief).

So here I go to tell you, that we are the creators of our own and collective reality. Your life path in this world is not restricted by your upbringing, your education or your location or environment. It is defined by the beliefs you hold about all aspects of life and yourself.

Here is my suggestion, if you feel like you are intrigued to have a solution to your life.

Become aware. Become the watcher of your thoughts. Reflect upon what beliefs challenge you most.
Then go into silence and discover who you are without the personality that encompasses you. Who would you be without the beliefs that you hold as truths? Who would you be without the doubts that you hold?

Live a life on purpose. And then again you might like this quote from W. Dyer.

“I am a realist….I expect miracles.”


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